Building Bridges: The Power of Making Amends

In the horse business—and in life—we all have moments we wish we could take back. Maybe it was words spoken in the heat of frustration, a temper that got the best of us, or a situation with a customer or fellow trainer that didn’t end gracefully. We’ve all been there. The truth is, relationships in this industry are vital. Our paths cross again and again—in show barns, in breeding barns, at sales, and in the ring. Holding on to grudges or letting pride stand in the way only weighs us down. Sometimes the bravest thing we can do is say: I’m sorry.

Owning Our Words and Actions

It’s easy to let emotions run high when we care deeply about what we do. Maybe we’ve said to a customer who decided to move on, “If you take this horse, take them all.” Or maybe we’ve spoken too harshly in a disagreement with a fellow trainer. In those moments, the words might feel justified, but later, they can leave behind regret. Recognizing that we could have handled things differently doesn’t make us weak—it makes us stronger. It shows growth, humility, and a willingness to learn.

Why Forgiveness Matters

Saying “I’m sorry” isn’t just for the other person—it’s for us, too. Forgiveness removes the heaviness that blocks growth. It clears the air, softens the heart, and opens the door for new opportunities.

Does it mean we need to become best friends with everyone we’ve had conflict with? Not at all. But it does mean we can let go of bitterness and replace it with respect, understanding, and peace.

Building Bridges for the Future

Rebuilding a burned bridge doesn’t always require a grand gesture. Sometimes it’s as simple as a phone call, a message, or a quiet word at a horse show. Even small steps toward reconciliation can change the trajectory of our business—and our hearts.

In light of what I wrote recently about lifting each other up as trainers and horsemen, this is part of the same mission. Growth, both personal and professional, often starts with humility. And humility often starts with a simple apology.

~Carrie Benedict